The 10 Commandments Of Finding True Love


Every activity under the heavens come in seasons and times. And during the appointed time for such activity, it ought to be guided by rules, else the result is either not assured as wanted or there is anarchy both at the personal and communal levels. This is especially true in our lives as Christians when seeking to find the one true relationship we would want to end in a marriage.

Nothing has led to more confusion and discontent in marriages, and thus high divorce rates, in todays world than the lack of rules and guidance while dating and choosing our life partners. This must never be the case as Christians seeing we have a Father in heaven who has taken the time, out of sincere deep-seated love, to light our path on earth through His enduring Word.

This article lists 10 rules or commandments every believing Christian ought to bear in mind as they seek their better half in their relationships.

The 10 Commandments Of Finding True Love

1). Thou shalt search according to the Book, not playboy magazines.

Remember, God started this love business, not Hollywood. So use His solid reliable rule book as a compass, not Tinseltown's hollow unreliable publications.

2). Thou shalt not bring old garbage into a new love hunt.

Dragging in stinking old relationships into a new partner-search spoils your love broth. Let bygones be bygones.

3). Thou shalt search using the inside-out approach.

Inner enduring qualities keep a relationship (and marriage) not fleeting outward qualities. Don't let broad shoulders or sexy curves derail your love quest.

4). Thou shalt search for a human being, not an angel.

Look for a mature person not a perfect human being without blemish. Even among the celestial beings class there were some angels that sinned. This is not to say you should settle for a person who deliberately falls into sin consistently without any feelings of remorse nor desires to repent from sin. Look for a mature, not necessarily perfect, person who considers the Lord in their ways.

5). Thou shalt not search aimlessly without any clear standards to guide thee.

If you aim at nothing you'll hit it every time. Have clear and specific spiritual, social, and physical requirements to direct your search.

6). Thou shalt search leisurely.

Don't rush your love search otherwise you'll crash head first. Take your time; this one decision will affect the rest of your life like no other.

7). Thou shalt search for commitment not chemistry.

Commitment, not chemistry, makes an enduring relationship. Unions based on good chemistry only blow up as the chemical composition heats up due to the pressures of life.

8). Thou shalt not spurn good old counsel.

Double check your intentions with advice from trusted mentors around you. Be humble enough to listen objectively and accept the naked truth.

9). Thou shalt not be obsessed with dudes or damsels.

If you become too preoccupied with eligible bachelors or spinsters you'll attract love predators. Prioritize your relationship with Jesus instead as He'll always be there for you.

10). Thou shalt seek divine assistance in thy search.

Don't forget that God wants you to meet that special person. In fact He is busy engineering circumstances in order to hook you up, so stay in touch with Him.

About the author
Pastor QT is a published author, copywriter and speaker. His sincerity, wit and candid style have endeared him to many hearts. His book DELIVERANCE UNPACKED has been warmly received globally. He conducts spicy marriage and singles seminars with his feisty wife Bonani.

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